Be the one.

When the world turn their back against you, be the one who doesn’t do the same.

Be the one who perseveres. The one who doesn’t see it as a reason to leave. The one who stays. Be the one who still sees the good in people. Be the one who forgives.

In this tough battle, be the one who chooses to fight. Who chooses to fight despite the pain. Who chooses to stand firmly to the ground and to not get knocked down. Who chooses to jump over the hurdles, and to endure through all the challenges. No matter how hard they may seem to be.

Be the one who fights for what’s right for the world. Who constantly believes that life will get better with the days. Be the one who doesn’t walk away when things go wrong. Who doesn’t turn away.

Be the one who fights for the people you love. Who chooses love over hate. Be the one who is thankful for the things that you have. Who doesn’t take love for granted.

Be the one who recognises good things. Who chooses not to run away in fear of getting run over. Be the one who never takes advantage of it.

Be the one who is kind. Who is genuine and sees things with bright eyes. Be the one who priorities your family and friends. Who doesn’t neglect people who care. Who greets others with softened eyes and an open heart. Be the one who appreciates people who pushes you to be better. 

Be the one who trusts. Who doesn’t let anyone down. Who follows through the good times and the bad. No matter how rough the world gets. No matter how tough the battle is. 

Be the one who stays.

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Don’t go around looking, you are your own person.

You are capable of being your own person.

I hope you listen to your heart and mind before you listen to somebody else’s, run through your thoughts before getting ideas from others. Because truthfully, only you know your real self, and only you are capable of figuring things out.

I hope you understand that no one will always be there to guide you back if you lost your way. This journey is yours to begin with. You have to be the one who searches for your passion, for where you want to be and for the life that you want to lead. Everyone else is running their own race, and no one will disrupt their pace to save yours.

I hope you know that you are capable of getting to the finishing line without the help of others, because you are your own catalyst. 

I hope you learn that you can be comfortably happy on your own. Because it is perfectly fine to want things that others don’t, or have a personality that the crowd do not favor. You have to be the one who sees yourself in a different light, win your fight and love your own life.

At the end of the day, everyone wears their own masks; and darling, only you know who you truly are and the stories behind. No one sees the things you see, no one feels the things you feel and no one knows the thoughts that keep you up at twilight.

I understand that this journey on your own may be tiring, unbearable. But have faith, because till the day you found your other person, you are your own person. And when the day ends, you’ll be glad you did it all on your own.

With the hardships that you’ve been through, you’ll grow.

Sometimes, it’s the deepest pain that makes you grow.

It’s the people whom you lost that makes you appreciate what you have. It’s the disappointments that made you wiser. It’s the challenges you face that makes you determined.

Hardships are bound to occur. Like pain, it’s inevitable. To most, experiencing hardships would help us grow, be more mindful and that’s how we get better at what we do. That’s how we become a better version of ourselves. That’s when we begin to truly understand ourselves. And, that’s how we know where we’re heading.

Truthfully, without pain and hardships, we could be better off. But without them, we wouldn’t be able to see what we saw. Without them, we wouldn’t be able to feel what we felt. And without them, we wouldn’t be able to battle against life’s toughest paths.

No one loves pain, no one loves hardships, for that i’m sure.

From the beginning, one decides their path and exposes themselves to vulnerability. We can’t just decide that we want our journey to be pain-free, neither would we be able to know the optimal path to take.

“So what do I do?” You’d ask.

“Nothing.” I’d say. “Embrace it, make peace with it.”

We wouldn’t be able to predict what’s gonna happen in years to come. But we can decode the message behind the pain and hardships. We must understand how the pain and hardships are stepping stones to help us get to our destination.

Eventually, the greatest pain is not about surviving the aftermath. The greatest pain is when you give the world another chance, knowing that it will open wounds again and still hoping that the world is as kind as you are.

Anyhow, we live to learn, we learn to make mistakes and we make mistakes to learn. I hope this helps you to find order in your complexity.

I’m certain, if we would choose, we would want to live without pain and hardships. But we can’t, so I hope that you’d choose to forgive and forget.

Untouchable.

There is always one person from your past whom is untouchable.

Untouchable because you thought you could be there for each other, but couldn't. Untouchable because you tried your best to make things work, but it seemed impossible. Untouchable because you thought they were your destination, but turns out that it was just a stopover.

Reminiscing the beginning, everything fitted so nicely. You had endless conversations, you couldn't get enough of their presence and everything just seemed to be happening for a reason.

But one day, all of a sudden, things went downhill. You didn't value each other like before anymore. You didn't make time for each other like you did in the beginning. And things went out of hand, you felt like you were losing what you had. The foundation that you built on, it was slowly breaking into bits and pieces. As this went on, you realised that it wasn't worth holding on anymore.

Then, you let go.

You let go not because you stopped loving each other. Not because you no longer care. And certainly not because you’ve lost the touch. But because leaving will do you good. It will bring both of you to a better place. And possibly, the next person who comes along, he or she will be someone of your dreams.

Yet, this person never leaves; because those feelings for them do not get lost, they just wander.

And, there may come a day where you realize that you could still pick things up from where you left off. However, like assembling the shattered pieces of a broken vase, it won't look whole anymore.

There, you'd realise that this person who was the soul to your heart, becomes untouchable; where words could only be spoken through tears.

My love, you formed such an important part of my life, yet we're so far apart. But I'm glad that you were part of it, because i wouldn't want to spend those times any other way.

We always knew that it was tough moving forward, but it was even tougher trying to make things work. While it was easier to stop hurting each other, because we deserve magic and nothing less.

A Letter To My Children In The Future.

Darlings, here are Mom’s promises to you:

I promise that I will be there to witness every step while you grow and become a person filled with passion, love and dreams. 

I promise to never stop supporting and encouraging you when you’re making life’s toughest decisions. I’ll be there; through your stressful college periods, and getting you through those pre-marriage anxieties. 

I promise that when life gets tough, home will always be your shelter from all storms. Because Mom will always be the person whom you can fall back on, and that i’ll be backing you up at all costs.

And I promise that I will be the person hearing you out when you need someone to talk to. Although I might not be able to give you the best advice or be your best listening ear, but I hope to be the person relieving you from the complicated world. 

Sure, one day you will find your very own sweetheart like I did, I know you will. And there will come a day when you would no longer need me like you do when you were younger. But remember that I’ll always be here, and i’ll always love you.

With all my heart. xx

Thank You Mum.

You are one strong and passionate woman who never lets opportunities slip away. You have big dreams and limitless ambitions; often too much that suffocates me.

But, you love us. You love us with all your heart.

And if you ever see this, this is what i’d say to you:

Mum, I want you to know that I love you too, I really do.

But, you might not like hearing this. When I was younger, there never seem to be a thing I do that you’d approve of. I felt that I constantly needed validation from you.

I hated it because it made me felt weak. Inferior. And your words of disapproval are the last things that I needed to hear when I failed; in times when I lacked encouragement.

Truth is, after all these years, we still never really agreed on things. But, I am thankful. Because if not for you, those criticisms would be coming from others. If not for you, I wouldn’t be what I am today.

So, thank you mum.
Thank you for building a strong woman.
Thank you for teaching me that life is always about the chase.
Thank you for shaping my confidence.
Thank you for my independence.
Thank you for everything that I am.

Today, I am thankful because I no longer seek validation from others. I no longer try to please everyone by being what I’m not. I no longer try to seek a common ground with everyone. Because all of us are different, all of us have different values and opinions.

And because of you, I’d grown to be opinionated. I learnt to be contented. I learnt to be confident in what I do and choose. I stuck close to my values. With that, I am happy to be pursuing my passions in life.

I hope you are proud of me, because all that I am today, I owe it to you Mum. Thank you.

Love,
Your beloved daughter

Goodbye Isn’t Forever, Or Is It?

During a recent trip, I was told a beautiful love story.

Like novels, it is amazing how two people can find their way back to each other even after decades. But what’s harder to imagine are the milestones they missed out in each other’s lives.

I asked myself repeatedly,

“How did they do it? How can they stand being apart if they meant so much to each other?”

“Did everything stayed the same?”

“And why didn’t they try to work things out in the beginning?”

Then, I came to the realization that two people often needed to be apart to know the importance of each other. And despite all the time they were apart, they still loved like before and this time, they knew that they want to stay. They knew that they are each other’s pillar of support.

Often, many don’t get second chances after losing what they had. And those who did, did not take on that chance.

But I’m glad they did.

Because when they met again in the future, they were finally ready for each other. Indeed.

It was heartbreaking yet rejoicing because he thought his love was too much for her. He thought that she could only find her happiness without him in the picture.

It was only till they found each other again, they then realised that certain things didn’t change; people might change and feelings do fade, but when the love is real, it never really goes away.

Their love story was so inspiring that I hope that the world could hear it. I hope that you, too, can be inspired by it and do not let go of the people who matter to you.

They were lucky to have found love again. But how often do chances like these happen?

So, if they do matter to you, tell them. Appreciate them today. Don’t wait till it gets too late. Don’t wait for second chances to appear.

Because they might be gone, forever.