A Letter To My Children In The Future.

Darlings, here are Mom’s promises to you:

I promise that I will be there to witness every step while you grow and become a person filled with passion, love and dreams. 

I promise to never stop supporting and encouraging you when you’re making life’s toughest decisions. I’ll be there; through your stressful college periods, and getting you through those pre-marriage anxieties. 

I promise that when life gets tough, home will always be your shelter from all storms. Because Mom will always be the person whom you can fall back on, and that i’ll be backing you up at all costs.

And I promise that I will be the person hearing you out when you need someone to talk to. Although I might not be able to give you the best advice or be your best listening ear, but I hope to be the person relieving you from the complicated world. 

Sure, one day you will find your very own sweetheart like I did, I know you will. And there will come a day when you would no longer need me like you do when you were younger. But remember that I’ll always be here, and i’ll always love you.

With all my heart. xx

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Thank You Mum.

You are one strong and passionate woman who never lets opportunities slip away. You have big dreams and limitless ambitions; often too much that suffocates me.

But, you love us. You love us with all your heart.

And if you ever see this, this is what i’d say to you:

Mum, I want you to know that I love you too, I really do.

But, you might not like hearing this. When I was younger, there never seem to be a thing I do that you’d approve of. I felt that I constantly needed validation from you.

I hated it because it made me felt weak. Inferior. And your words of disapproval are the last things that I needed to hear when I failed; in times when I lacked encouragement.

Truth is, after all these years, we still never really agreed on things. But, I am thankful. Because if not for you, those criticisms would be coming from others. If not for you, I wouldn’t be what I am today.

So, thank you mum.
Thank you for building a strong woman.
Thank you for teaching me that life is always about the chase.
Thank you for shaping my confidence.
Thank you for my independence.
Thank you for everything that I am.

Today, I am thankful because I no longer seek validation from others. I no longer try to please everyone by being what I’m not. I no longer try to seek a common ground with everyone. Because all of us are different, all of us have different values and opinions.

And because of you, I’d grown to be opinionated. I learnt to be contented. I learnt to be confident in what I do and choose. I stuck close to my values. With that, I am happy to be pursuing my passions in life.

I hope you are proud of me, because all that I am today, I owe it to you Mum. Thank you.

Love,
Your beloved daughter

Read This If Your Family Broke Apart.

Fret not. Even if things doesn’t seem fine for you right now, they will be. One day, you would understand that your parents did everything they could to save their marriage and your family from breaking apart. But, there is only so much that they can do and it is often for the better.

Looking back, most of your time may be spent watching them having endless arguments. Anger. Disagreement. Violence. It must have been unpleasant to witness. Yet, there was nothing that you could do to help.

Gradually, you felt like no one could understand the circumstances you’re facing in your life, and neither could they think in your shoes. There, you started building an indestructible wall, so that you could save yourself from explanations and what not.

But soon enough, you realized that you are suppressing all your emotions by putting up a strong front, so that no one could see through your heart.

Well, people thought you were difficult. Withdrawn. Unfriendly. But in fact, you just needed your own space, so that no one will have to be bothered by your struggles.

Now, I want you to know that it is okay to talk about it. It is okay to allow yourself to let loose, share your fears and anxieties. Do not be afraid to open up.

I also need you to know that things will fall into place eventually, and everything will start afresh. Because then, you will see that everyone is in a better place. Happier.

I understand that there may be times of reminiscent, when you felt like you lost it all; all the good times you had as a family. But i want you to continue fighting for yourself, and that you’ll never let this bring you down.

Because you should never lose faith. Don’t allow yourself to.